Marriage, Career, Children: Young Indonesians Rearrange Their Lives

The Indonesia Millennial and Gen Z Report 2026 survey, conducted by IDN Research Institute in April 2025, found that career has become the top priority for young Indonesians: 35% of Gen Z respondents and 30% of Millennial respondents placed it first. Marriage and building a family did not make the top three.

This does not mean they reject marriage. The IDN Research Institute survey titled Indonesia Gen Z Report 2024 found that 73.7% of single Gen Z respondents said they want to marry in the future. But "in the future" now means something different.

A Populix survey published in February 2025 involved 1,038 Gen Z and Millennial respondents. The result: 61% consider the ages of 25 to 30 the ideal time to marry. Not a single respondent chose an age below 20 as the right time. Marrying young is no longer an aspiration. It has shifted into something to be avoided.

In 2014, Indonesia recorded 2.11 million marriages. By 2024, the figure had reached 1.48 million, a 30% decline in one decade. SIMKAH data from the Ministry of Religious Affairs recorded 1,479,533 marriages throughout 2025, up 1,231 events from the previous year. This 0.08% increase halted the downward trend that had run since 2022, though it remains far from historic figures.

One regulatory factor deserves note: Law Number 16 of 2019 raised the minimum marriage age from 16 to 19 for women. This step contributed to reducing child marriage but also shifted the baseline of the national marriage figure.

Why are young people delaying? The reasons are layered, but finances dominate.

A Deloitte survey released in May 2026 found that 55% of Gen Z and 52% of Millennials are delaying major decisions such as marriage and starting a family because of their financial situation. As many as 69% of Gen Z and 64% of Millennials also cited housing affordability as having a direct impact on their decisions about career and where to live. A financial foundation is not an accessory to marriage. For this generation, it has become a prerequisite.

The Populix survey (February 2025) adds further nuance: of 156 single respondents, 54% cited not having found the right partner as their main reason. So beyond economics, there is rising selectivity. Gen Z does not only want to be financially settled before marrying. They are also more careful about choosing who they build a life with.

At the end of this shift lies a bigger question: even after marrying, will they have children?

The 2025 Intercensal Population Survey (SUPAS), released by BPS in May 2026, recorded Indonesia's Total Fertility Rate (TFR) at 2.13, down from 2.18 in 2020. This decline is driven mainly by a significant drop in birth rates among women aged 15 to 24. Jakarta recorded the lowest TFR nationally at 1.79, approaching the below-replacement level (below the figure needed to maintain population size).

Earlier BPS data from 2023 recorded 71,000 women aged 15 to 49 who chose not to have children (childfree). Women with master's or doctoral degrees showed a higher tendency to delay or not wish to have children. Education and fertility are now moving in opposite directions.

The TFR of 2.13 is still above the replacement level of 2.1. But the direction is singular: down. And the decline is led by the younger age group.

It is important to read this data correctly. Young Indonesians are not rejecting marriage or family. They are reordering the sequence in which they achieve them.

In one decade, the share of young people who are married fell from 40.46% (2016) to 27.92% (2025). Over the same period, career displaced marriage as the top priority. The IDN Research Institute 2025 survey found that 68% of Millennials and 63% of Gen Z admit to delaying marriage. But the majority of them still want to marry, someday.

"The decision to delay marriage or not have children, taken by Millennials and Gen Z, is not because they reject traditional family values," the IDN Research Institute Millennial and Gen Z Report 2025 noted, "but more as a strategy to survive amid challenging economic turbulence."

This is an important distinction for policymakers and brands.

For brand executives, this means Indonesia's young segment currently has more discretionary income and fewer dependents than their peers in the past. They consume as individuals, not as young heads of households. Products for newlyweds or babies need to adjust the timing of their communication.

For policymakers, this data calls for a layered response. An approach that only pushes young people to marry sooner does not touch the root of the problem. What needs to be addressed first: housing accessibility, income stability in the early productive years, and a work ecosystem that supports family formation without sacrificing career.

Indonesia's TFR at 2.13 is still safe, but the trend driven by highly educated young women needs to be watched early. Demographic corrections, like those experienced by Japan and South Korea, take decades to reverse.

Young Indonesians are not destroying the institution of family. They are calculating: what needs to be in place first before building everything?

The answer, based on the data, is: a stable job, the right partner, and a sufficient financial foundation. Only after that, marriage. And perhaps, after that, children.

The old order is no longer the only order that applies.

Data sources: BPS (Indonesian Youth Statistics 2025, SUPAS 2025), SIMKAH Ministry of Religious Affairs (2025), IDN Research Institute (Indonesia Gen Z Report 2024, Millennial and Gen Z Report 2025 and 2026), Populix (February 2025), Deloitte Global Survey (May 2026).